Multiple Online forums have huge discussions on Coming Out. One of the most frequent advice I have read on Coming Out is only to be done when one is financially independent and well settled. I found this advice extremely discerning for the reason that it seemed incredibly selfish to me. It's like saying, 'Yeah I'm Gay and if you don't like it, I don't care. I have money now so you can cut me off if you want to!'.
Yes, believe it or not but that was my exact thought. I tried putting down this on a particular discussion asking for a response but nobody took it up against me. It further solidified my belief that the reason most people don't dare to come out is because they are financially dependent on their parents and do not want to risk their money wells by telling the truth about themselves.
For me coming out has always been highly personal. It's about me and not about money. If my parents don't find peace with the fact that they have a gay son, I'm still pretty sure I would not get disowned. And if that is the case, I'll work but I will not step back into the closet for anything. I love my folks and there's no doubt in that, but I know my coming out is the right thing for us. They may not see it as I do but I know!
Anyways so as I mentioned, the fact about first becoming financially independent and well settled, and then coming out did not settle well with me. A few months back I was discussing the same thing with a friend of mine. He explained why so to me and I would admit that it changed my opinion on this issue. Coming Out is best done when firstly you are absolutely fine with people knowing and identifying you as a homosexual and are appreciative of the fact that you are a responsible human being.
In the present world if someone has managed to establish himself/herself then one part of the life is complete. You are immediately viewed with respect and pride. People look up to you and know that you can do it. Parents look for responsibility from their children as they grow because at some point the parents have to let go so that the individual can carve out his own place in the world. The sense of responsibility puts down a clear perspective that the said person has got what it takes.
Our public image isn't the best and there is no denying it, and while it's good to care for the entire LGBTQ community as whole. Your first priority should be you and once your at a respectable place, come out and come clear. It's my firm belief that no parent can hate their own flesh and blood forever for being homosexual. It's not humanly possible!
Our parents really do care for us, they just need a little bit of faith that you are still you!